Friendships seem harder to come by the older you get. It’s easy when you’re in school and forced to be in close contact with people on a continuous basis, plus you have common ground to bond over. I was involved in a ton of activities and always felt surrounded by buddies which is comforting as a teenager.
Then there was a huge chunk of my 20’s where I didn’t really make any new friends at all and it was incredibly lonely. Everyone from school had gone their separate ways. I seemed to be stuck in this in-between phase – too old to hang with the college kids, but everyone else my age was starting families and we had nothing to relate to.
I managed to keep a couple of friends from school and work in my younger days, one of which has remained my best friend since 4th grade. Before internet, smart phones, and texting we could go months without speaking to each other, then pick up the phone and talk like no time had passed. Those are the kind of friends you know will be there until the end.
Over the past five years, as I entered my 30’s, I became remarkably lucky to make some amazingly great friends. Some of which I met online through a crafting forum and we instantly bonded over our love of DIY and alternative art. I love these girls like mad, and even though we’re spread all over the country I know they’re there.
Another I met on a trip to the Magic Castle and we quickly became friends on the car ride over due to our mutual admiration of Neil Patrick Harris. We’ve had so many great times since that night: drinks, dancing, dinners, trips, weddings, celebrity hunting, photo shoots, parties…you name it.
Some came into my life by happenstance and I am grateful for their support and everything I have learned from them. You really get to know a person when you spend 10 days driving cross country with them!
I’m learning, the older I get, that it’s not about how many friends you have but the quality of those you do have. I feel blessed to have some really amazing people in my life now and I wouldn’t trade that for anything (except maybe a million dollars, sorry guys, but mama’s got bills to pay )